I didn’t buy one of my best friends in the entire world a birthday present this year…i don’t know if i’ve ever purchased a birthday gift for Casey to date. Its strange when you think about it because he is easily one the most important people on my roster of 450 some odd facebook friends…and i actually see him in person on a regular basis.
apparently there is more to friends than meets the eye…. yeah, duh, i know.
i came across a long read about the science of “friendly love”. this is a small excerpt. i don’t know why any of you should or would care about this… i enjoy this stuff from time to time. with wars over oil, ethnic cleansings, controversy over global warming, shootings, president bush and epidemics flooding the press and airwaves (that’s a whole different string of thoughts though), it’s refreshing sometimes to read about human nature. but really,i think everyone could walk away with a deeper appreciation of the people we are lucky enough to call friends…and i’m not just talking “top 8″….
“Love Between Friends
Robert J Morton
Love is the driving force that creates and sustains friendship. The kind of love friends have for each other is the desire to know, serve and share. It is the antithesis of lust – the desire to acquire, possess and control. It is what makes one want to connect with another human consciousness – intellectually, emotionally and physically.
Unspoken doubts and suspicions are barriers that limit the possible depth to which a friendship can progress. Love empowers friends to say how they feel about each other without inhibition or fear of hurting each other’s feelings. It thereby allows them to resolve their doubts and suspicions about each other, thus removing the barriers and opening the way to an ever deeper friendship.
Because friends love each other, one never attempts to force, coerce or control the other to change for the better. One friend only informs the other of the way he or she feels. Love will motivate the informed friend to change him or herself for the better. Because friends love each other, they will never use each other as a means to an end – as a human resource to be used and abused for self gain. A friend – as a precious sentient consciousness – is an end in him or herself. That end is the joy of sharing experiences and reciprocal love. ”
-how did i find this??!! care to read more?
i’m sure this bearded nobody could open your mind to a thought or two.
http://www.robmorton.20m.com/philosophy/relationship/friendship/friendef.htm
