I didn’t buy one of my best friends in the entire world a birthday present this year…i don’t know if i’ve ever purchased a birthday gift for Casey  to date.  Its strange when you think about it because he is easily one the most important people on my roster of 450 some odd facebook friends…and i actually see him in person on a regular basis.

I’m not a “gifter” i guess.  Its not like i sit back and say “i’m a grinch and suck and casey doesn’t get a present this year”.  its not because i can’t afford it, i’ve the most expendable income that i’ve ever seen…ever!?  Its not that i can’t think of a million things that he would probably like… i’m sure he’d love a camera, maybe some paints or some snowboard pants, or maybe even a new sweet Matix Asher hoody?  Yeah, so lack of ideas isn’t it either.

Casey, here’s the deal.  I can’t think of a single material thing in this world that i can give to you that would even come close to rivaling the collective awesome that you have brought into my life nor the things that you have done for me since the day i met you back in the hall out front of psychology at Clark College.  The insight, compassion, humor and honesty that you share with me can not be measured with dollars and cents or grams or inches.

I like the idea of doing something special for someone, but i never feel that my gifts can truly convey the volume of emotion that they should.  I’d like to bottle the butterflies in my stomach for the boy i have a crush on,  crank up the volume of stoke that i share with someone when we have something in common and revel in reflection and enjoyment together…thats the kind of gift i’d like to give.

I hope i cease to suck because i didn’t get you something for your birthday… but know that you’re like 1 of maybe 5 people that i can fart in front of, and thats very special.  Its your day!!!

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i came across a long read about the science of “friendly love”. this is a small excerpt. i don’t know why any of you should or would care about this… i enjoy this stuff from time to time. with wars over oil, ethnic cleansings, controversy over global warming, shootings, president bush and epidemics flooding the press and airwaves (that’s a whole different string of thoughts though), it’s refreshing sometimes to read about human nature. but really,i think everyone could walk away with a deeper appreciation of the people we are lucky enough to call friends…and i’m not just talking “top 8″….

“Love Between Friends
Robert J Morton

Love is the driving force that creates and sustains friendship. The kind of love friends have for each other is the desire to know, serve and share. It is the antithesis of lust – the desire to acquire, possess and control. It is what makes one want to connect with another human consciousness – intellectually, emotionally and physically.

Unspoken doubts and suspicions are barriers that limit the possible depth to which a friendship can progress. Love empowers friends to say how they feel about each other without inhibition or fear of hurting each other’s feelings. It thereby allows them to resolve their doubts and suspicions about each other, thus removing the barriers and opening the way to an ever deeper friendship.

Because friends love each other, one never attempts to force, coerce or control the other to change for the better. One friend only informs the other of the way he or she feels. Love will motivate the informed friend to change him or herself for the better. Because friends love each other, they will never use each other as a means to an end – as a human resource to be used and abused for self gain. A friend – as a precious sentient consciousness – is an end in him or herself. That end is the joy of sharing experiences and reciprocal love. ”

-how did i find this??!! care to read more?
i’m sure this bearded nobody could open your mind to a thought or two.

http://www.robmorton.20m.com/philosophy/relationship/friendship/friendef.htm

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